Fourteen years ago I donned a formal white dress that I had picked out on a girl’s weekend trip to Seattle.  There were three attendants to help me dress, but I didn’t know any of them before that day.  Across the hallway, in the groom’s dressing room, my soon-to-be-husband was putting the finishing touches on the tuxedo he had bought for the occasion.  We were at the beautiful Bellagio Hotel in Las Vegas, then the height of luxury in a city that specializes in out doing itself over and over again.

When I was dressed, I walked down the aisle of the small chapel.  The ten or so pews on each side were empty, but my beloved stood at the front of the room, and he was the only person I needed to see.  The ceremony was short but beautiful, and we received a package of six video tapes (VHS, of course) with which to memorialize the event.  They came in a heavy case that held two beautiful champagne flutes and a little frame for our marriage certificate.

After the ceremony, we had a photography shoot outside, on the beautiful grounds of the hotel, and drank champagne while we laughed and posed.  It was a glorious day.

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Although we were in our thirties, I suppose in many ways we were as naïve as any couple setting out on the grand voyage that is a marriage.  Of course we had a few misconceptions about the trajectory of our trip, as I’m sure every newlywed couple does.

We experienced hardships that we could never have fathomed on that sunny day in 2000, and received help and encouragement we never could have imagined to get us through them.  I had the blessing and joy to get to participate in the raising of Greg’s three beautiful young daughters when we married, and then at the age when many couples are preparing to graduate their kids from high school, if not college, we welcomed the first of our own two beautiful children into the world.

We have laughed a lot, cried a little, and fought….well hardly ever.  It’s not that we have agreed on everything, but I think we had the benefit of experience to help us try to respect the other’s point of view. There has only been one epic fight that I can remember, though to this day I don’t recall exactly what it was about.

That’s not to say that it’s always been easy.  There have been hurt feelings, misunderstandings, even moments of silent fury over the years.  To quote one of my favorite people in the world, “Have you ever thought about divorce?” “Divorce no, murder……maybe.”  In the end though, we have always worked through things together.  We’ve learned that the only things we can’t handle are the things we don’t talk about.

Through it all, we have developed over time a well-honed partnership, driven by mutual respect as well as love.  We are committed to making a happy life not only for our children but for each other.  And although it sounds cliché, we truly are each other’s best friends.

So while it’s not been perfect these fourteen years, it has been perfect for us.  I truly would not change one footstep of this path we’ve travelled together.

Happy Valentine’s Day hon, on this fourteenth anniversary on the fourteenth day of February in 2014.  I am looking forward to fourteen more.

And fourteen after that.

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6 thoughts on “Fourteen…..Fourteen…..Fourteen

  1. Melissa

    Oh my Gosh how the time flies. To two of my favorite people that I rarely see but think of often. Happy Anniversary!

    • Thank you old friend! Now that I think about it, you were the ONLY one who knew where we were those secret few days fourteen years ago. Time does fly! Hope to see you sometime soon. XOXO

  2. Jerri Emm

    I love this! So happy for you,
    and you guys are all beautiful! A very Happy Anniversary and Happy Valentine’s Day to you! I hope to see you one of these days!

    • Thank you J-Dude! I miss you guys and we will see you one of these days. My kids need to venture a little further around the country. Wait…..and idea! Maybe they could come spend the summer with you!! 🙂

  3. William C. Bish

    Fourteen years! How wonderful!!!! And when I saw that I thought, “Wow! They’ve been married just two years longer than Malu and I!” (We did it civilly at the Venetian in Las Vegas in 2002.) But then I thought, no, we just got married last December 20th in Church…now I’m totally confused. Anyway, when I look at the pictures, see the boundless energy of your two beautiful children, and look at the smiles on your faces, I am very proud of my niece and her family. May God bless you with fourteen X four so you can see many great grandchildren and tell them stories about how it was in “the olden times.” With love and prayers from Virginia….

    • Thanks Uncle Bill! Ah, The Venetian, my favorite hotel in Vegas….makes me smile thinking of it. Regardless of your “real” anniversary, happy late Valentines to you!! XOXO Paula

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